Well, we got news yesterday that Calie will not have to go back to another hearing. She will just need to write a letter to the judge, saying that she is in agreement with the adoption. The social worker will help her with the letter, "soon", is what they said.
They also gave us more explanation on the problem in court. Calie said she was angry with the judge, because she asked too many questions. I can only guess what these question may have been, based on what other previously adopted children from Taiwan have said they were asked. The Taiwanese tend to treat the children like adults, expecting that they can understand all that is happening to them, and just accept it, like an adult (which I'm not sure even an adult would be real keen on being sent to a new culture, family and language, without some major apprehension). So, when children respond in a childlike way, they seem to be confused by this. The Taiwanese also are trained to be polite and follow whomever is in authority over them, without questions. It's their culture, which sometimes contrasts to what we (Westerns) would consider normal human behavior. Cultural differences are the most difficult aspects of international adoption, both during the adoption and once the child comes home, in my opinion.
We are also excited about our next Skype chat which is TOMORROW!! Yea, I'm so glad they didn't make us wait to talk to each other, when I think we all need the contact. Going a month without talking to her I don't think it good for us or her. We're hopeful that she will be getting over her anger at the court process and that we can help bring her back to the point of this whole thing - forever family!
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